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So, the most hurtful and frustrating and important thing that’s really going on is this: While he’s blowing hot and cold, coming and going, doing his irritating and frustrating “dance,” what’s really causing the most pain is if you’re WAITING for him! It’s like we get paralyzed, and try to freeze- frame our lives.And worse, and even more painful is if you’re STANDING AROUND waiting for him. We try to put everything on hold, hoping that he’ll stop his dancing and do what he’s supposed to do: be with us. It feels like being trapped, and used, and beat up.
Easy and simple and without stress and frustration and tears and worry.
Instead of seeing his behavior as “right” or “wrong” you’ll EXPERIENCE it as feeling “good” or feeling “yucky.”And then you get to use all my Tools to communicate how YOU feel to HIM.
So…how does this work with KEEPING YOUR OPTIONS OPEN?
Since then, we have gone out a couple of times and have been intimate.
What is confusing me here is when we are laying in bed, he always initiates the conversation about us.
We all think when we meet “The One” it will happen fast. But most of the time – we’re not quite READY for it to happen this quickly and easily.
If we’ve been wounded, or have trust issues, or are struggling with low-self-esteem and some bad patterns with men in the past – we have some PRACTICING to do, first.And “The One” man for us may be in the same “not quite ready” place, too. We date other men.*** Here’s a letter from Debbie A few months ago I reconnected with a man that I dated briefly back in the fall last year. When he came back into my life I asked him what happened and he said that he was dealing with some issues within himself and that it was nothing I did.So, what do we do while we’re waiting for both of us to be ready? He told me he was “looking for a good women to love him the way love should be” and he told me he missed being my friend and would like to try again.We each have different ways of relating to the world – some of us visually, some of us through sound, some of us through touch.And so, what might be a deal breaker for one of us (an example might be that we need to hear him “say” he loves us), might be completely unimportant to another of us (who might care more that he “show” his love by doing things for us).And sometimes, these things, these “deal breakers” can change!